“Danfo” Tales in the Big City

“Danfo” Tales in the Big City

“Oshod! Oshod! Iyanoworo Oshod!” (Yes the “I” in “Oshodi” is missing on purpose)

“Ikeja! Ikeja! Hold your one-fifty change Ikeja!”

“Ogudu Waso, Toll gate hundred naira, any bus stop ikeja one-fifty”

“Obalende – CMS!”

“Oya aunty e bo le

” E ba wa dress ni be ejoo”

“Lekki hundred naira!”

“Hol your change oh, I no get change”

I’m ashamed of how well I know these.. but honestly, I could go on.

My Danfo tales are endless and I’m sure I am not alone. I thought it’d be interesting to share some of my experiences.

Anytime I experience something odd or exciting on the bus I feel as though it was played out just for me. LoL

Sometimes I’m like “nahhhh this has to be prank, this can’t be happening”.

But then I’ve never heard anyone scream “punked!” after an unbelievable episode in a bus.

Anyway, like I said, my bus tales are endless so let’s begin.

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Dealing with Demons

Dealing with Demons

I like to refer to struggles as demons. This way, I envision struggles as little beings / minions that disturb our preferred disposition from time to time.

Everyone has a demon they battle with on and on but some people’s demons are greater than others’.

You think of your demon as the most difficult thing to deal with and then you hear about someone else’s and you’re like, ‘I might just have a bug tbh’.

My thoughts are all over the place – I thought I could come and put some of it down here but it seems stuck.

Let me tell you what I call a demon

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Pick a Date.

Pick a Date.

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“Pick a date then work backwards”.

My Boss says this all the time.

I work in a Unit in HR where we plan and deliver trainings. I never thought it would be hard. But as it is with everything involving logistics and many other people besides yourself, planning and delivering trainings is hard and annoying.

I digress.

Do you know why he always said to pick a date? It’s because psychologically if you set a date for something, you sort of do everything within your power to make sure you are ready for that date. Especially when it involves stakeholders other than yourself.

Why am I talking about this?

My Boss’ advice as annoying as it always is, is always super helpful.

It makes things happen.

Personally, I feel that without this advice, I would never have accomplished half the things I have accomplished while working with him.

Anyway this is not a write up about my Boss.

It’s about you and me. It’s about us and why we never get around to doing the things we really want to do.

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Worry! Gosh! Anyone who knows me knows that I worry too damn much. Its ridiculous. Even more so that I know its a bad thing but I keep doing it anyway.

“Worry is a prayer for something you don’t want”. I heard this from TV Series – Mistresses. It’s probably old but I heard it recently and thought “wow, so spot on”.

I always worry but then I end up doing what I would have done in the first place anyway.

Overthinkers Anonymous, I should find this club and join or better yet create one to help others – maybe we can solve our problems together (two heads are better than one right?).

ME: “Hi my name is Happiness and I’m an Overthinker.”

GROUP: “Hi Happiness!”

Sounds good already! 😀

Okay, I was writing this  and I stepped away from my laptop for a couple of hours, lost my train of thought now, I’ll try to get it back *fingers crossed*

Hold on, Is worry different from overthinking? coz they sort of operate at the same level for me. *shrugs*

Why do we worry so much though? – I guess sometimes we can’t really help it.

Let me use myself as an example. Hmmn, I worry a lot! I said this already – lol. But in fact, 92% of the time my worries end up being completely and utterly baseless. Okay, maybe not baseless but unnecessary.

Everyone (well most people – give me a break, I generalize a lot!) know(s) that I am quite a logical person. I rarely ever make a decision without thinking through it thoroughly. And I mean thoroughly (except when I’m just convicted – like when I was selecting a university). Anyway, so, at the end of the day I hardly ever make the wrong decision. I’m not saying I always make the right decision but most times when I say “A” and someone else *cough* my brother *cough* says “B”, “A” is almost always the better decision. Yeah, so you catch my drift.

But as much as I know this I still overthink everything before and worry about everything after. Why? I don’t know. I was hoping you lot could help me.

Okay, Okay I need to start making sense soon.

Errrrmm. Yeah. Worry. Worry is bad – very bad.

Even the Bible condemns it; “Therefore I tell you do not worry about your life … Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life ?” – Matt 6:25 -27

Worry does absolutely nothing for us. I mean as much as we worry over something, a person, a decision we’ve made, or whatever, it does not change the situation. It doesn’t. So what is the point?

Another Quote – “worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength”

So my dear friends rather than worry so much about things we can’t change why don’t we channel that energy towards making things better moving forward or even managing an already dented situation. I hope this makes sense.

If we notice most of the time we spend worrying we are actually not trying to find a solution to the apparent problem rather, what we do is we try to gauge how bad it is – Oh it’s bad, Oh no it’s so bad, On a scale of 1-10 how bad is this? Waste of time!

“When life gives you lemons make lemonade” Does this quote apply? I don’t know.

I mean, think about it, all that time we spend worrying about something that has already happened a nude we already sent out, hehe. Why not just channel that time towards doing something better.

I know we hear this a lot. I am also a work in progress so I’m basically giving myself a pep talk here 🙂 I hope it helps you too!

Worry less, it’s really not worth it.

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