I need a break…

I need a break…

…sound familiar?

How often do we hear those 4 simple words?

It’s as simple as that “I.Need.A.Break”

Sooo many times right?

I cannot even begin to count how many times I have said it myself.

A break. “Always a good idea”, I say.

But why do we need these breaks?

The way I see it , asking for a break is like asking for an escape from your current life

It could be for whatever reason

To get some air when you’ve been drowning;

To get some love when you’ve been broken;

To get some peace when there’s been chaos;

To take a breather when you’ve been panting;

To get some warmth when you’ve been freezing

To get some healing when you’ve been hurting;

To get some cold air when you’ve been burning; or

To get a life when you’ve lost yours.

So the way I see it , you never need a break from something that’s good.

LoL. That sentence maybe completely wrong you know 

I just remembered an episode of Sex and the City where Carrie was in a seemingly perfect relationship with Aiden and was having palpitations because she couldn’t fathom how good things were. She actually asked for a break from their perfect relationship.

I guess I could argue here that the “perfect” relationship was causing her distress that she needed a break from.

But then again Carrie was sort of dysfunctional.

Cont’d:

Or have you ever needed a break from the good life to get some much needed pain and suffering?

I haven’t.

But I won’t judge you if you have *wink*

Back to my point:

A break suggests you’re trying to escape something

Trying to get away from something that brings you less joy than you bargained for

A break suggests there’s something better…

Crap! I can feel the bias in this write up 

I’m doubting my own write up *palm face*

But I’m still gonna go on, see if I can convince you. 

This write up was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend btw.

Anyway let me go on with my argument

*clears throat*

Cont’d:

I’m not saying that a perfect life exists where you never want to leave even for a holiday

My doubts about this write up resumed right after that one sentence.

Oh gosh! The devil is a liar 

I just went to type the end of this post before I continue let me see if I can work my way to that end 

Having the end makes me convince myself that it’s a good and unbiased post 🙂 

Okay, here we go again

Cont’d:

What I am saying is

It is important that we pay attention to the yearnings for these said ‘breaks’ and try to articulate a few things:

How often do I need these breaks?

What are my major reasons for needing this breaks?

Do I see an opportunity to escape and jump at it like my life depended on it?

How do I feel when I take these breaks?

How quickly after a break do I feel I need to go on another one?

Are there consistent triggers for requiring these breaks?

Or are they borne out of a bunch of different reasons?

Let me just say what I want to say…

If you are constantly needing to run away from your life, then that may not be the life you ought to be living

How about you seek some change so that your life is a place you want to stay in not somewhere you feel the need to run away from

Sometimes it is difficult to attain this change

So do this:

Fill your life up with lots of of other interesting factors that cancel out or drown the part of your life that makes you want to run

Find what makes you happy

Find a life that makes you want to stay

Try to make sure the life you choose isn’t one you want to run away from every now and then.

Oh gosh… I hope I convinced you with this post.

Even a little bit *sigh*

Even if I failed, I hope you enjoyed reading it at least 🙂

Write soon xx

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