Ohh! where do I start?
First off, it has been a minute. So much has happened in the last 45 days or so. I hope I do it justice with this post. Tbh I doubt I will, but you know, bear with me 🙂
Okay I have to write this because it’s stuck in my head – ‘the money turned me into a monster, the money turned my noodles into pasta, the money turned my tuna into lobster’ lol (if you know, you know).
Okay back to business.
Have you had an experience that made you question yourself? Questioning not just your ability to scale through but actually questioning your ability to be yourself through it. You’re probably wondering how something can question your ability to be you.
I thought that way too until I experienced it. So things would happen or life would throw these big hurdles at me and I would sit back and ask if plain old simple “me” was enough to achieve all that I had to achieve. And guess what, my answer was not yes.
Let me say here that life gets tough. For some people it never gets to this point but for some others it doesn’t take much to get here. And it’s very easy to feel insufficient to handle all that life throws at you.
It is very easy to lose yourself in a situation or circumstance and to try to be someone else with the hope that this will increase your chances of making it through.
But here’s my simple take on this, having gone through it myself of course: you were YOU right up until that situation, so why do you need to change yourself to get past it?
Easy to say right?
My major inspiration for this is the popular saying that God will not give you what you cannot handle. We were all made very differently with different capacities to handle different circumstances. But our paths have all been carefully orchestrated.
If something is placed in your path that you were not built to overcome, another way will be made. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes you have to alter your thoughts, upgrade your abilities, just to create a better version of you but not to change you.
Sometimes simply taking on the challenge is all it takes to create this enhanced you. You don’t actually have to go through a revamp session of a sort. It just takes saying something like: “I wouldn’t do this on a normal day, but I am going to try to do this today”, and when you look back you realize that the challenge has made you stronger, and made you a better you.
And everything that you achieve adds up to you. It does not add up to some mystery macho man somewhere, it adds up to you.
Look at it this way, there are sooo many things we do now that we would have never thought of doing some years ago but somehow we found ourselves in situations where we had to do them, and we did and now we are “over” it.
Or this way, parents don’t expect their 2 day old baby to wake up and start jumping hurdles or even walking, but at the same time they are aware that there will come a point when that same baby will be able to achieve all those things and much more. The baby does not change, he does not give his situation to someone else to help him achieve he simply grows and allows himself time to achieve all that is set out for him.
There is a process for everything and a time when things are more achievable than they used to be. So when faced with a new situation do not look at it with a mind of difficulty, you have options, face it head on, give yourself time and come back to it, or build yourself up and tackle it. No doubt some things are harder than others but it is what makes us stronger. The truth is, if it can be done, it shall be done and YOU can actually do it.
I am just getting used to the idea that every experience teaches you something. In the past few days of this new phase in my life, I have struggled to accept that this is how I must live but still, somewhere in between, when I have a moment to look back at the things I have done, things I never thought I would bother doing, I know that I am better person for it.
Write soon! xx