No, this isn’t about Adele’s song.
It’s more As told by Ginger theme song – “someone once told me the grass was much greener on the other side…”
In life we are always looking to get better.
Somewhere better, something better, someone better.
But how do we know it’s better on the other side? I mean we haven’t been there.
Someone would say this is where faith plays in. Good. But why don’t we have faith that better will meet us where we are now? Why are we always looking to move? Why do we have to go searching for better? Why can’t better come find us?
Not a very valid argument is it?
Okay, let me retract my thoughts.
But this is it to be honest. I always wonder… How do we know that where we are headed is better than where we are now ? Or in the reverse case how do we know that where we are dreading to go isn’t better than where we are now?
For instance someone tells a London based person to move to Lagos and their reaction is like what? Lagos? No way in hell? Lagos is too stressful, it’s too this it’s too that? How do you know that your life in Lagos isn’t going to be better than your life in London?
Is that faith too?
Or someone says “Ahh! I have to move to America oh! whether by hook or by crook. Better life awaits me there.” How do you know?
Or when you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t necessarily a bad person but you just have the feeling he/she isn’t right for you. How do you know the next person or the next after the next will be right?How do you know there is someone “righter” for you than the one you are with now? Do you “just know” these things?
I guess we never know. We just hope for the best.
Okay I figured it out.
We can’t wait for better to come to us.
We have to strive for better. That is just how it works. Hard work is the key to success. If we don’t try we cannot know.
We can’t just sit back and hope or have faith that better will come to us without trying.
The people who do that are called ‘Lazy’.
We have to keep moving. If we get to the place we thought would be better and it isn’t, we move again, until we get to where we want to be.
Like I said in ‘Stuck‘ – we have to keep trying, fight till we aren’t stuck anymore. In this case, we fight till we find ‘better’.
Write soon! xx