Worry

Worry

Worry! Gosh! Anyone who knows me knows that I worry too damn much. Its ridiculous. Even more so that I know its a bad thing but I keep doing it anyway.

“Worry is a prayer for something you don’t want”. I heard this from TV Series – Mistresses. It’s probably old but I heard it recently and thought “wow, so spot on”.

I always worry but then I end up doing what I would have done in the first place anyway.

Overthinkers Anonymous, I should find this club and join or better yet create one to help others Рmaybe we can solve our problems together (two heads are better than one right?).

ME: “Hi my name is Happiness and I’m an Overthinker.”

GROUP: “Hi Happiness!”

Sounds good already! ūüėÄ

Okay, I was writing this ¬†and I stepped away from my laptop for a couple of hours, lost my train of thought now, I’ll try to get it back *fingers crossed*

Hold on, Is worry different from overthinking? coz they sort of operate at the same level for me. *shrugs*

Why do we worry so much though? – I guess sometimes we can’t really help it.

Let me use myself as an example. Hmmn, I worry a lot! I said this already – lol. But in fact, 92% of the time my worries end up being completely and utterly baseless. Okay, maybe not baseless but unnecessary.

Everyone (well most people – give me a break, I generalize a lot!) know(s) that I am quite a logical person. I¬†rarely ever¬†make a decision without thinking through it thoroughly.¬†And I mean thoroughly (except when I’m just convicted – like when I was selecting a university). Anyway, so, at the end of the day I hardly ever make the wrong decision. I’m not saying I always make the right decision but most times when¬†I say “A” and someone else *cough* my brother *cough* says “B”, “A” is almost always the better decision. Yeah, so you catch my drift.

But as much as I know this I still overthink everything before and worry about everything after. Why? I don’t know. I was hoping you lot could help me.

Okay, Okay I need to start making sense soon.

Errrrmm. Yeah. Worry. Worry is bad – very bad.

Even the Bible condemns it;¬†“Therefore I tell you do not worry about your life …¬†Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life ?”¬†– Matt 6:25 -27

Worry does absolutely nothing for us. I mean as much as we worry over something, a person, a decision we’ve made, or whatever, it does not change the situation. It doesn’t. So what is the point?

Another Quote –¬†“worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength”

So my dear friends rather than worry so much about things we can’t change why don’t we channel that energy towards making things better moving forward or even managing an already dented situation. I hope this makes sense.

If we notice most of the time we spend worrying we are actually not trying to find a solution to the apparent problem rather, what we do is we try to gauge how bad it is – Oh it’s bad, Oh no it’s so bad, On a scale of 1-10 how bad is this? Waste of time!

“When life gives you lemons make lemonade”¬†Does this quote apply? I don’t know.

I mean, think about it, all that time we spend worrying about something that has already happened a nude we already sent out, hehe. Why not just channel that time towards doing something better.

I know we hear this a lot. I am also a work in progress so I‚Äôm basically giving myself a pep talk here ūüôā I¬†hope it helps¬†you too!

Worry less, it’s really not worth it.

Write soon! xx

What is Love?

What is Love?

How do we know when it’s love?

Is it from the butterflies in our belly?

Is it from the intense attraction we feel towards the other person?

Is it from our unwavering desire to be there for the other person come what may?

Is it just a feeling?

Is it a physical feeling – like is there some sort of stimuli you get when you’re in love?

Is it spiritual?

What is it? I always wonder

Have I been in love before and didn’t know it?

Maybe not, coz people say you’ll know when you’re in love. No one will tell you. “You just know”, they say.

But what’s the difference between reallyyyy reallyyyyyy liking a person and loving a person?

Why do people act all “loved up” but¬†crumble when it’s time to say the words; ‘I love you’?

When you love someone and it doesn’t work out with them, what happens to that love (Carrie asked this on Sex and the City- and quite frankly I wonder about that)?

Can you love more than one person in a lifetime? Are we allowed to ?

Can you love more than one person in the same year, month, week, or even day?

It’s sooo easy to say we love our friends & family but once it’s a romantic interest we are zipped tight.

What is love?

When do you know it’s love?

Why is it called love?

Who said it had to be different from plain old simple ‘like’?

I’m just curious really ūüôā

Write soon! xx