I have been having this back and forth argument with my friend about love.
And I thought I’d write about it.
I think Love is a Decision. He doesn’t.
What do you think?
Here’s how I see it:
I believe you decide to give a person your love.
There’s your family who I believe you are “
forced” designed to love.
Yes, because I mean, they are family.
But then there’s a special guy or girl.
The one you love in a special kind of way.
The one you have the gooey feelings for.
The one that makes you smile with your heart.
I think you decide to love this person.
The way I see it, we meet several people through the course of lives
We get crushes, we have flings, we think he’s cute, we think she’s cute.
But then there’s the one (or ones) we decide to say the 3 powerful words to – ‘I love you’.
Why do we decide?
My friend says love comes and kicks you in the bottom and you cannot help but love when that person comes along
I get that.
But I still think love is a decision.
You know how you are asked why you love a person?
Some people have answers.
They say it’s because he’s kind, she’s generous, he makes them feel like a queen, she’s the best friend I never had, bla bla..
See what I think:
I am sure he is not the only kind person you’ve met, and she’s not the only generous person you know.
So why don’t you just love all those other kind and generous people?
Why this one?
That’s where my ‘decision’ argument comes in.
Yup. I think we make that choice. The choice to love them.
Some others don’t have answers.
They are like “You know what? I don’t know why I love them, I just do.”
Some even start to doubt their love when they realize they do not have an answer to this question.
Some think it means the love is deeper, more special when there’s no reason.
I think that’s a bit off point.
But that was relatable so pfff.
My friend says if we choose to love a person then why do we get hurt?
Excuse me, but I think this is even a dumb argument.
- Choosing to give your love to someone does not mean that they will choose to give you theirs.
- Choosing to give your love to someone does not mean you cannot go back on it.
- Choosing to give your love to a person and having them give theirs back to you does not give you immunity against hurt.
We are still human.
We change our minds.
We hurt people without thinking and sometimes with thinking.
We are human.
My closing argument:
There are so many good looking, kind, loving, generous, amazing people we meet through the course of our lives.
But this one comes along and we CHOOSE to love them.
We make that decision.
Write soon xx