Running, Not Moving.

Running, Not Moving.

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I remember one day a couple of years ago; my friend and I were heading to the cinema to see a movie.

He was a couple of meters ahead of me as I had stopped to send a text.

He looked back and said “Hurry up, we are going to miss the movie”.

I proceeded to run.

After a few seconds running towards him, he burst out laughing saying “how do you do that?”.

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Is Fear really a thing?

Is Fear really a thing?

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What does the phrase “Do not be afraid” suggest to you?

To me, it suggests that the feeling of fear can be controlled.

So what is fear?

Is it really a thing?

I guess it is.

Can it be likened to other feelings like anger, sadness and happiness?

What is fear?

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Pick a Date.

Pick a Date.

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“Pick a date then work backwards”.

My Boss says this all the time.

I work in a Unit in HR where we plan and deliver trainings. I never thought it would be hard. But as it is with everything involving logistics and many other people besides yourself, planning and delivering trainings is hard and annoying.

I digress.

Do you know why he always said to pick a date? It’s because psychologically if you set a date for something, you sort of do everything within your power to make sure you are ready for that date. Especially when it involves stakeholders other than yourself.

Why am I talking about this?

My Boss’ advice as annoying as it always is, is always super helpful.

It makes things happen.

Personally, I feel that without this advice, I would never have accomplished half the things I have accomplished while working with him.

Anyway this is not a write up about my Boss.

It’s about you and me. It’s about us and why we never get around to doing the things we really want to do.

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This “Love” Thing

This “Love” Thing

I have been having this back and forth argument with my friend about love.

And I thought I’d write about it.

I think Love is a Decision. He doesn’t.

What do you think?

Here’s how I see it:

I believe you decide to give a person your love.

There’s your family who I believe you are “forced” designed to love.

Yes, because I mean, they are family.

But then there’s a special guy or girl.

The one you love in a special kind of way.

The one you have the gooey feelings for.

The one that makes you smile with your heart.

I think you decide to love this person.

The way I see it, we meet several people through the course of lives

We get crushes, we have flings, we think he’s cute, we think she’s cute.

But then there’s the one (or ones) we decide to say the 3 powerful words to – ‘I love you’.

Why do we decide?

My friend says love comes and kicks you in the bottom and you cannot help but love  when that person comes along

I get that.

But I still think love is a decision.

You know how you are asked why you love a person?

Some people have answers.

They say it’s because he’s kind, she’s generous, he makes them feel like a queen, she’s the best friend I never had, bla bla..

See what I think:

I am sure he is not the only kind person you’ve met, and she’s not the only generous person you know.

So why don’t you just love all those other kind and generous people?

Why this one?

That’s where my ‘decision’ argument comes in.

Yup. I think we make that choice. The choice to love them.

Some others don’t have answers.

They are like “You know what? I don’t know why I love them, I just do.”

Some even start to doubt their love when they realize they do not have an answer to this question.

Some think it means the love is deeper, more special when there’s no reason.

I think that’s a bit off point.

But that was relatable so pfff.

My friend says if we choose to love a person then why do we get hurt?

Excuse me, but I think this is even a dumb argument.

  1. Choosing to give your love to someone does not mean that they will choose to give you theirs.
  2. Choosing to give your love to someone does not mean you cannot go back on it.
  3. Choosing to give your love to a person and having them give theirs back to you does not give you immunity against hurt.

We are still human.

We change our minds.

We hurt people without thinking and sometimes with thinking.

We are human.

Things happen.

My closing argument:

There are so many good looking, kind, loving, generous, amazing people we meet through the course of our lives.

But this one comes along and we CHOOSE to love them.

We make that decision.

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Wanting More…

Wanting More…

I want more!

Oh! Lord knows I want more!

But I often ask myself: “Do I do enough to get the things I want?”

What do I mean?

I mean its great to desire more, have expectations and just yearn for greater but is that where it stops? Desire?

I think there’s a certain level of hard work that needs to go into wanting and getting more.

See, I don’t have the answers.

I don’t think any of my posts have the answers to anything I ask to be honest. LoL

I digress,

So you are wanting more?

What do you want?

What needs to be done to get what you want?

What are you willing to do to get it?

What have you already done to get it?

What are you going to do to get it?

I don’t think any great person ever got great by mere desire.

Okay, maybe some. I don’t know them – You might. *shrugs*

But you know all those “Great People” we read about?

Notice how they all have this back story of how they went through this and went through that?

How they were rejected 99 times, how they were thought useless at school, how their inventions kept crashing before they could get the final one to work?

Notice?

Yeah.

That’s what they did to get the “more” they wanted.

What are you going to do differently today to get your “more”?

I’m asking myself the same question.

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It’s like taking a pill

It’s like taking a pill

I HATE, absolutely DETEST taking pills.

From the first time I remember popping a pill in my mouth

It has always been a huge problem

It hasn’t changed since

But as with most things around trying to feel better , it’s something you have to do

The other day I likened my job to taking a pill

“Close my eyes pop it in and hope I don’t have to taste it as it goes down my throat”

That’s literally how I carry out every task at work

And as is the case with taking a pill , most times I’m successful .

The drug gets in my belly without a trace in my mouth

Without accidentally hitting the roof of my mouth

Or touching the back of my throat

It just goes down with the liquid as intended

But there are those other times when I pop the pill in and the devil rears it ugly head

Causing the pill to either become too big to flow seamlessly down my throat. Causing the pill to linger on my tongue after the liquid is long gone leaving a repulsive sediment I can almost always never get out of my head

Or causing the pill to stray to the side, fall in between my teeth and in the midst of my confusion, I bite down – ohhh the horror!!!

So yeah

That’s how it is with work

My lucky streak runs out for a bit and I get to experience how incredibly horribly tasting my job can actually be.

The end.

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I need a break…

I need a break…

…sound familiar?

How often do we hear those 4 simple words?

It’s as simple as that “I.Need.A.Break”

Sooo many times right?

I cannot even begin to count how many times I have said it myself.

A break. “Always a good idea”, I say.

But why do we need these breaks?

The way I see it , asking for a break is like asking for an escape from your current life

It could be for whatever reason

To get some air when you’ve been drowning;

To get some love when you’ve been broken;

To get some peace when there’s been chaos;

To take a breather when you’ve been panting;

To get some warmth when you’ve been freezing

To get some healing when you’ve been hurting;

To get some cold air when you’ve been burning; or

To get a life when you’ve lost yours.

So the way I see it , you never need a break from something that’s good.

LoL. That sentence maybe completely wrong you know 

I just remembered an episode of Sex and the City where Carrie was in a seemingly perfect relationship with Aiden and was having palpitations because she couldn’t fathom how good things were. She actually asked for a break from their perfect relationship.

I guess I could argue here that the “perfect” relationship was causing her distress that she needed a break from.

But then again Carrie was sort of dysfunctional.

Cont’d:

Or have you ever needed a break from the good life to get some much needed pain and suffering?

I haven’t.

But I won’t judge you if you have *wink*

Back to my point:

A break suggests you’re trying to escape something

Trying to get away from something that brings you less joy than you bargained for

A break suggests there’s something better…

Crap! I can feel the bias in this write up 

I’m doubting my own write up *palm face*

But I’m still gonna go on, see if I can convince you. 

This write up was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend btw.

Anyway let me go on with my argument

*clears throat*

Cont’d:

I’m not saying that a perfect life exists where you never want to leave even for a holiday

My doubts about this write up resumed right after that one sentence.

Oh gosh! The devil is a liar 

I just went to type the end of this post before I continue let me see if I can work my way to that end 

Having the end makes me convince myself that it’s a good and unbiased post 🙂 

Okay, here we go again

Cont’d:

What I am saying is

It is important that we pay attention to the yearnings for these said ‘breaks’ and try to articulate a few things:

How often do I need these breaks?

What are my major reasons for needing this breaks?

Do I see an opportunity to escape and jump at it like my life depended on it?

How do I feel when I take these breaks?

How quickly after a break do I feel I need to go on another one?

Are there consistent triggers for requiring these breaks?

Or are they borne out of a bunch of different reasons?

Let me just say what I want to say…

If you are constantly needing to run away from your life, then that may not be the life you ought to be living

How about you seek some change so that your life is a place you want to stay in not somewhere you feel the need to run away from

Sometimes it is difficult to attain this change

So do this:

Fill your life up with lots of of other interesting factors that cancel out or drown the part of your life that makes you want to run

Find what makes you happy

Find a life that makes you want to stay

Try to make sure the life you choose isn’t one you want to run away from every now and then.

Oh gosh… I hope I convinced you with this post.

Even a little bit *sigh*

Even if I failed, I hope you enjoyed reading it at least 🙂

Write soon xx